* Control-freaks we are
We are used to being ‘patronized,’ us humans actually want to be yelled at (and cared for’): We ‘feel safe,’ ‘atease’ and ‘looked after,’ by the female control freaks, as they are familiar (likeour mothers) and for what we craved for as toddlers. Recognize this? Any addiction is unconscious craving for relief from our suppressed, feelingly remembered directives from our keeper, then. All’s fair in love, but not as hierarchical, with every one-in-six a stylish ‘click.’ Wished for parent(s), yet still we ‘want out.’ Everyone has their traumas and losses, if long‘forgotten.’ No reason for ‘shame, ’except for the gossip, which we ‘don’t do:’ Guilt from loss exists, as the Freuds observed. Accept the pig in the poke you are, me too, be proud, there’s always some pleasure to be gained. Beware of the always wishful ‘truth,’ do not flee from it. Give me the Christian treatment anytime, it’s good for you, supposedly harmless and if it hadn´t been inventedit would be, which it is, everywhere. The analytic, dichotomic and bipartisan or disectic approach to any questionor curiosity is the most primitive intellectual tool with a phylogenetic and inherited origin. Nature and consequently a lot of nurture too, in our case.It’s relatively coarse and requires a ‘theory,’ guess or gamble, i.e. the‘frame’(-work), angle or dimension of approach, to execute. We are mostly raised by mothers and female carers and that turns out to be a burden on the boys as guardians of their carers ‘status,’ ‘respect’or freedom from ‘shame.’ They still consider them a part of themselves and carriers of their ‘status,’ which seems low to them. A question of ‘deserving’better.
This ‘pride-thing’ keeps everybody fighting and surviving. Dichotomies tend to specify and average out communicated observations, if the analyzed ‘facts’ (of life) are at all remembered. No need to begrudge the forgotten facts, or the ‘theories’ invented to sustain them. Only the wished-for ‘goodies’ really count, even if (funny) ‘bad news’ and ‘pride.’ What if we did not have our proud and caring women, and their figuration, the largest of all? Created dichotomies are our named ‘communities’ for survival in all competitions.‘Wrong’ ones get corrected. Dichotomies are its markers with distinguishing‘theories,’ that preserve society and thus they are figurated.